I'd lurched into old my habits of control freak stress management, when my workload seems unbearably out of control and there is too much to do, I try and manage EVERYONE ELSE whether they report into me or not, to try and feel I've achieved something.
Ummm, perhaps that good work colleague had a point and perhaps I should have listened a bit better.
It takes guts to to point out to me that I'm a pain, I can be a bit scary at times I know that. So I really do appreciate that good, kind work colleague for taking the time out from their overworked day to give me a slap so to speak.
It reminded me to stop working so hard to be the perfect manger and stop setting unrealistic targets to prove myself to others. I only need to prove it to myself and you know what, I'm doing a pretty good job and so is that kind work colleague.